There is a serious problem plaguing the youth of American. It starts with a lack of knowledge and a blinding ignorance to consequences. The plague is charged by a distinct lack of awareness by parents or guardians and a lack of intervention. Read the rest of this entry »
Although I wasn’t always so hip on listening to my mother, I learned fast that what she said to me was for my own good. One night, she told me no about going to a party and I, as a head strong teenager, decided that she was just trying to be discipline me more. I was wrong; mothers have a strange intuitive nature about them. Read the rest of this entry »
One thing that really! And I mean REALLY! irritates me is when a big girl thinks she doesn’t deserve respect. When a big girl thinks she has to sleep with a man to get his attention. This is what I so fondly call the “Fat Girl Syndrome”. I have coined the phrase because I see all too much, hell I even had it for awhile. Read the rest of this entry »
Although I write to the men here women can learn from and take this advice too!
“Well that was dumb”……..
One thing women do NOT like is being told something they said or did is stupid. Even if it is stupid and we know it, it still hurts when you say it. We know it was dumb we don’t need you telling us it was. You are supposed to say supportive things like “Maybe you should try something different next time” or “that wasn’t the best but here is something that could help you out”. You are supposed to stop us from downing ourselves, not join in on the “I’m the worst person ever” rift we’re on.
Bitch and moan…….
Ok so if we ask you for help, don’t bitch and moan about it. Feel privileged that we thought of you and considered you a good fit for our task at hand. Bitching about it makes us feel like shit… and we don’t like that. Making us feel like shit will ensure that later you will feel like it! If you don’t like what we ask you to do, say that you don’t like it once then drop it. We heard you but we may or may not take that into consideration the next time that task arises. If you bitch too much, we may name that your task above all others as retaliation. If you voice your concerns and then leave me to think about it, I will more than likely feel like a bitch for asking in the first place and never ask again unless in dire need.
The infamous CHEATING……..
Its funny how often people cheat and don’t even think they are. Secrets and lies are cheating people… its cheating your partner out of information and it’s cheating them out of you! As to the common act of cheating, as in physical intercourse or any physical connection with someone other than your significant other, I just don’t get it. Break off your relationship with one before pursuing another. It’s pretty simple in my eyes. If someone draws your attention other than our partner and I don’t mean in just the “wow their hot” kind of way, discuss it with your partner. May you’ll realize that your partner isn’t what you want or need at that time or maybe you’ll realize that what draws you to the object of your obsession is that they share characteristics with your partner. Whatever it is, talk to your partner. That is the simplest thing, just talk. BUT if you’re too chicken to talk face to face drop an email. Or hey, maybe you just need to break up or just cool off for a bit. Maybe start seeing other people for a while to see if you and your partner are really made for each other. My mother used to tell me that if it’s meant to be then it will be, and if you two part ways and come back together you will be stronger and your relationship will be stronger because you will know that you truly want each other. In this section I talked to men in particular but this applies heavily to women as well. IN THE END… just be honest with each other keep your relationship open. Just treat others the way you would want to be treated, and I am sure you wouldn’t like to be lied to. And before you cheat, think of how you’d feel if your partner did it to you.
Gentleman not Warden
Ok so this one seems easy but I just have to say a few things anyways. Opening doors is very gentleman like, getting pissed because I open my own door WARDEN. Here is a boarder liner. Ordering my meal for me kind of controlling but cute and gentleman like in an old school way. Selecting my meals and/or changing my order because you do not think/want me to eat it? That is another WARDEN move. Suggesting that I wear your favorite outfit on our date is cute and shows that you pay attention to what I wear and like my style. If you pick out my outfit and lay it on the bed then get mad when I don’t wear each item you want is a total WARDEN move. Ok so I know I gave some extreme and kind of funny examples but these things really happen. Each of these has happened to me in one relationship or another. Women are looking for a gentleman and a partner, not a warden and master. Be my equal and you’ll get much further!
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